Ever wonder what the other door is like? Or have these questions ponder you:
“What could have been?”
Well, don’t look any further. Apparently Facebook has that feature!
It isn’t a button you are grown accustomed to thanks to “like” or “share”, which are constantly in your page. However, it is that notion of being present in Facebook itself, the invisible “whatifs” button as I’d like to call it.
Have you had that instances in your life where you have to choose this certain path or keep going the same direction? Yes, right? Okay, let me make it more difficult. This time, have you had instances in you life that you were in a good place, great city, great company of friends and family yet, you know deep inside you are not “there yet”. You haven’t fully blossom, or better yet, haven’t reached the dream you strive to achieve in life. The only solution for you to shoot up is to go leave the place and venture to different places.
So, you are there in the crossroad of your life. Choose to stay and settle on this comfortable and happy bubble of yours. I mean, you can still grow as a person or in your career. Especially if you’ve found people who will not only accept you for who you are but help you to be a better person. And maybe find a job that is simple but makes you ultimately happy. Or choose to venture outside that bubble. A place you are not certain. Can give you a hell of a journey yet, give you a lifetime of experiences. You’ll be alone, nevertheless you’ll come out strong.
Now, its the moment of truth and finally you decided to leave. Your family and friends bid you a great farewell. And as you stroll around the unfamiliar waters of life you’ve never dealt with, you are both excited and nervous. Yet deep in your soul, it actually makes you happy.
The thing is as days and then months pass you by, you miss the comforts of home. And thankfully enough *tan tan tanan!* We’ve got Facebook!
You stay connected with them. Get to comment, share, chat and pretty much be still part of their comfort bubble. The thing is my friend, you are long gone on that bubble. Most probably, you are in a different hemisphere and most of the time feel you’re in a different planet! And it will eventually consume you.
And subtly, this Facebook feature emerges. Surprisingly, from, invisible it choses to be visible in your settings. You double check and it does. You are bewildered.
You see in your feed what they’ve been doing. What is happening in their lives, what you are missing. And finally it dawns on you, “I am seeing the other path. The path if I stayed. I pressed on the invisible “whatifs” button in fb.”
This made me think.
There is a reason why when we are in that certain crossroad of our lives, two paths, two doors are always the analogy. If you’ve got two paths and you need to choose the ultimate path, you will never be able to see what lies ahead on the other path. Same goes for the two doors.
Before, I’d always wonder why not make it transparent…or as we stroll along the decided path why not let us see what happens to us if we did choose the other one?
It’d be interesting.
It’d be fascinating.
It’d be a cheating.
You see, thanks to this special feature in Facebook, I finally understood why in life we need to decide in ONE PATH and never be able to see what lies in the other one.
When you are given two choices of anything. Clothes, gadgets, shoes and etc you feel something. Well, okay, yes joy because you didn’t need to choose. You got ALL OF THEM! That is not joy, that’s just the icing in the cake. You felt, confident safe and assured. It is guaranteed that you have them both. You have an endgame. You are certain!
NEWSFLASH: Life is unpredictable. Nothing is certain.
Yes, that is scary, unnerving, terrifying however it is what makes our life more interesting and colorful. It gives us a chance to get better. And isn’t that what we want in life? To be better at this career? To be better student? To be better fathers or mothers? To be better people? To grow as a person.
If we knew what will happen, then what can we change? There will be no chances to do something different, unimaginable, something no one has ever done. Or simply make it ordinary if your life is too wild and fast.
Get that what ifs out of your mind. You shouldn’t even welcome it into your lives. Yes, its interesting, but if we keep walking on the path we did take yet look on that transparent wall we’ll be just those exercising buffs who chooses to use the treadmill. They feel the illusion of motion and sweat but they will never have the experience of moving in the woods, or any place which joggers or runners feel. They are just in one place. So, We will never grow. We will be stuck at that place. True, you are walking on the path you choose. But it will never erase the fact you are still yearning for the past…or better yet the present parallel universe.
So, I thank you Mark Zuckerberg or whoever is making those features in Facebook come alive to make this “whatifs” button invisible! You know what, keep it invisible forever!
Ignore, all those feeling of regret, or loss. You are never lost! When you think about it, being lost is a good thing because you can find new things you never knew existed within you. And this is a luxury most people do not use because they are so “busy”. It’s quite unsettling because few people use this perk. But trust me, it’s all good! 🙂 Just take time and ponder and you’d go back in track even stronger than ever!
So, keep moving forward. Or if you are tempted to look at the other door, get those eye focus things horses use. 🙂 And just be focused in one path, the path you’ve chosen.
Keep that ‘whatifs’ button invisible and just be happy with whatever is happening in their lives. After all, its use is for staying connected. 🙂